Living with loneliness
2020 was a very hard year for us all in so many different ways. But one of things that has affected us all, more than we ever thought it would has been the loneliness as a result of self-isolation and even the wearing of masks. Even though some have managed to keep in contact with their family and friends via the internet, the lack of physical contact has hit us all.
There is nothing like give a hug to a loved one. Receiving a hug is the best thing ever. And yet, we’ve not been able to have physical contact with others for nearly a year. It’s been hard going.
Loneliness is one of the deepest of all our emotions. It’s right down there with feelings of worthlessness that create a hollow feeling inside. It’s a dreadful feeling. Even if you’re not feeling lonely now, I know you’ve been there. We all have – often.
The next step down from loneliness is hopelessness and despair and the feeling that life has no meaning. This is a dark place to be.
Is this something I should be talking about with New Year’s Eve just around the corner? However, if you’ve got something planned you’ll not reading this. But, if you’re lonely right now – then this is something that is uppermost in your mind.
How do you feel… ?
If you know me, then you know how often I ask “how do you feel”? And if you’re feeling lonely right now, I’d ask you “how do you feel“? And I’d expect you to say “Lonely. I’m very lonely”!
Your overwhelming feeling is that of sadness!
Loneliness is a dreadful state. It’s one of the deepest states of despair and depression. We’re really just like bees. We like to live in a community; we constantly seek a sense of belonging. And that one special relationship is so important to us.
There’s a common saying ‘no man is an island unto himself’. We really do hate being alone. It makes us sad and accentuates of feelings of worthlessness.
We need to be loved and we want to share our love with others. Being alone is foreign to us.
A true (and happy) story- which could help you now!
I was holding a small Bach Flower afternoon workshop on Anxiety and Depression. Sue decided to come to the workshop as she wanted to be with people who were feeling like her. Her husband had died 10 months previously and she couldn’t get over it and was depressed. She said more than once how lonely she was and how the house was empty. What happened next was a surprise to her.
I’ll let Sue tell you herself.
Star of Bethlehem.
Star of Bethlehem brought about this amazing change. Although Sue was depressed because she was still grieving for her lost husband and she was lonely! She was sad – very sad indeed.
This wonderful remedy is for shock and trauma and grief. And you can see how quickly it acts.
Star of Bethlehem is in Rescue Remedy. So, when you’re lonely put 2 drops of Rescue Remedy into a glass of water and sip it frequently.
Choosing which remedies you need can be tricky, so here’s something that you’ll love and can help you.
For now, here are 3 other remedies for loneliness. I’ve listed all 4 of them here.
Star of Bethlehem is for sadness and crisis. The pandemic has certainkly been a crisis. Look how it helped Sue.
Heather is for when we get so tied up with out own anxieties and feelings.
White Chestnut stops the merry-go-round of your thoughts going around and around.
Sweet Chestnut is for a deep state of despair that I mentioned earlier.
How to take them.
In a small glass of water, mix together 2 drops of each of your chosen remedies, and sip that water throughout the day and evening. Frequency of dose is much more important than the quantity.
Happy New Year and may 2020 the best year ever. It can be when you heal and harmonise your feelings with the Bach Flower Remedies. Click here to find out more about this incredibly powerful healing system that can be your constant companion and help you navigate the stormy seas of life. They can help you as they helped me over the last 3 decades.