Bach Flowers Heal Grief and a Broken Heart

 

Grief and a broken heart, along with anger, I believe are two of our deepest feelings.  They both seem to go into the depths of our being and tear at our soul.

Both emotions give birth to a whole host of other feelings from despair, being discouraged and disappointment.  Leading to loneliness and lack of self-worth. And of course, it conjures up feelings of “how am I going to manage wthout him/her?”  

This blog is about grief : the pain of a broken heart.   But if anger is raging within you then this blog will help you.

At sometime in our lives we all suffer from the loss of someone or a pet we love dearly.  I’m afraid its part of being human and no one escapes this feeling.  It happens to us all.

Please don’t misunderstand me, I’m  not belittling breavement or sorrow. I’ve been there and got the T shirt.  In fact, I’ve got lots of these T shirts – just like you – relationships that broke my heart and of course, the loss of my beloved parents.  And how I wish I’d know about the Remedies in those days.

Grief at the loss of a loved one

A breavement is always a shock, even when you expect it, it’s still a shock.
And then comes the pain.
You feel as if there’s a stone in your stomach and the hole in your heart – both that the same time.  The feelings of being completely lost and alone are mixed together so you’re unable to distinguish one feeling from another. And the only thought you can muster is “how do I get through today”? 

Without healing, that thought, and similar ones, run through your mind continuously, usually for months.

Where do you go now? What do you do now?  How can you pull your life together?

And what if you were unable to get to the bedside quick enough to say the words you know you should have said long ago.   What then?  Self-blame!  Guilt!  Such awful turmoil – all mixed up with saddness.

Broken relationships

But these feelings are not exclusive to the death of a loved one, many have a broken heart from a broken relationship – a long marriage where one partner thinks all is well and is shocked and broken hearted when the other wants to leave.

It’s not the length of the relationship that signifies the depth or the pain.  We can fall into the deepest of loves in a matter of minutes.  The breaking of a relationship brings the same pain and we ask ourselves the same question?  “How am I going to get through today”?

And, in my house, (before I knew about Bach Flower Remedies) we got through the day by making endless tea!

Bach Remedies can heal a broken heart.

Here are three remedies that will help you heal your grief – even if its from 20 years ago: even if you’ve pushed grief down, it will have become loneliness and depression – these Bach Flower Remedies will see you on the road to recovery.

Sue came to one of my afternoon workshops on the Bach Flower Remedis.  This is Sue’s tale.  Her husband had died ten months earlier and she was not adjusting well at all.  Her family were hugely supportive and very worried.  As well as grieving the lost of the love of her life and her constant companion since mid teens, she was lonely and depressed too.

 Star of Bethlehem is the first remedy you need. 

It doesn’t matter how old your grief is, this remedy will help.  It’s also the remedy for shock and trauma as well. .

Star of Bethlehem is one of the remedies in Rescue Remedy.   So if you don’t have Star of Bethlehem, take Rescue Remedy,

Gentian

Gentian is needed when you are ‘knocked back’ by an experience. It seems to over simplify and belittle the depth of emotions you may feel, if I say ‘you’ve suffered a set-back’.

You think everything is going well, and then you find out about an affair or your loved one wants to move on. You’re shaken to your core as well as being broken hearthed This is a huge set-back for you.

You are bitterly disappointed and become depressed (Gentian is an excellent remedy for depression – if you can remember your ‘set-back’). You’re so discouraged by your experiences that you’re sceptical about life ever getting better. You’d like to get better, but you don’t believe you can.

It’s worthwhile having Gentian in your Bach-kit because it isn’t only for the big disappointments. If your child didn’t do as well as they hoped at school, or wasn’t chosen for the sports team or didn’t receive the phone call or text from the new boyfriend/girlfriend – the Gentian will take away the feelings of disappointment before they festers and go deeper.

“If only I’d …”

Pine will help you when you feel ashamed

If you don’t get to the bedside in time; if you’ve been working so hard for too long that your partner moves out: if you didn’t do enough for your parents – you always meant to visit once a month, but never got around to it.  You meant to go and help your mum with the housekeeping and dad with garden – but you never got around to it – and now its too late.

“If only .. ” runs through your mind constnatly.  And you feel awful. You’re ashamed of yourself.  The list of ‘should haves’ and ‘could haves’ run endlessly through your mind as you’re filled with guilt!  And no matter what you try to do: talking yourself out of, going partying, watching junk on the TV – nothing helps.
The Bach Flower Remedy Pine will help you.

These are just three of the 38 Bach Remedies.  Although these three will help you, you could benefit from some of the other remedies too.

Click here now if you’d like to find out more about the Bach Flower Remedies and which remedy would be best for you.Free Bach Remedy Guides

Over to you.

As always,  I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment box below.  Thank you.

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  • laura ferguson says:

    This sounds like just what I need. I have Rescue Remedy, but Gentian sounds more helpful to specifically where I am at now. Thanks for the info, Rose!

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Laura.
      Thank you for leaving a comment, but sorry to hear you feel you need Gentian.
      Its probably the Star of Bethlehem in Rescue that’s helping you and doing good work. With the help f Gentian, your healing can be complete.
      It really is a brilliant remedy and I used to take it often! Best wishes Laura.

  • bertina says:

    these days I wake up early in the morning with a feeling of despair, worry and/or guilt( it is all because of me, It’s my fault that this and that happened to other people, I must be a wrong person etc). It takes a while before I am allright again and the mornings start a bit low-spirited. Would you recommend gentiaan?

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Bertina
      Thank you for your comment. I’m always pleased to hear from you.
      I’m sorry that you’re not doing so well.
      I can understand why you feel that Gentian could help you a little – and it might, but its not the remedy you really need.
      Your email talks more about how ‘its all your fault’
      The remedy that will help you the most is Pine.
      Have a read of this. I think Pine will do you a lot of good.
      https://rosetodd.com/bach-flower-remedies/bach-flower-blog-overcoming-perfectionism/

      Best Wishes. Rose

  • bertina says:

    thank you! I’m better now. I immediately added pine to my mixture!
    But then still the question: what if they are right?

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Betina. Thank you for writing and I’m glad that Pine has made some difference to you.
      But, still there is a nagging doubt “what if they’re right (and I’m wrong?”
      Stay on Pine and add Larch for self confidence.
      Put 2 drops each into a glass of water and sip it frequently (about every 10 or 20 minutes – take a small sip). Frequency is the key – not quantity.
      I’m sure that’ll make a big difference to you.
      Here’s the link to the Blog on Larch
      https://rosetodd.com/blog/are-you-as-confident-as-you-want-to-be/
      You might find it helpful>
      Hope you feel better soon.
      Warm wishes. Rose

  • bertina says:

    I took pine + larch and indeed it makes a big difference. I’m still taking the mixture.
    It makes me feel better, calmer.
    I still have a knot in my stomach though
    and last night I’ve been dreaming (again) about snakes.
    Thank you for your help.

  • Rose Todd says:

    Hello again Betina.
    I forgot to give you this link.
    https://rosetodd.com/bach-flower-remedies/bach-blog-power-yellow/
    This blog might help you too.
    Rose

  • Dee says:

    Hello Rose,
    Thank you for your blog on grief. Earlier this year my Mum passed away and I am feeling a lot of the emotions mentioned in your blog, especially the feelings that I let her down and did not do enough because I found her illness difficult to cope with. I was not given the chance to be with her when she died and this is also something that has been hard to come to terms with. Reading your blog this morning has helped me to understand why I keep feeling as I do. I have started taking the Rescue Remedy as that is the only Bach remedy I have at the moment.

    • Rose Todd says:

      Dear Dee. Thank you for writing. I’m glad the blog helped you. I do understand some of what goes on when we loose one our parents. It’s hard enough coping with the grief, let alone trying to process their illness too. How I wish I’d known about the Bach Remedies when my mum died.
      Rescue Remedy will help you deal with the shock and grief. Add Pine too when you have the opportunity. Warm wishes. Rose.

  • Kathy says:

    Hello Rose
    This blog is very apt as family member is suffering and so good to have your valuable guidance.

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Kathy. I’m glad the blog helped. I know the remedies will do good work and I hope your loved one feels better soon. Warm wishes. Rose

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