Helping Others with Dementia

Dementia seems to be spreading fast and is really difficult for those suffering cope with.  But there is something that can help them – Bach Flower Remedies.

Whether you’ve just discovered the Bach Flower Remedies, or have been using them for years, you know their healing power and want to use it to help others in whatever way you can.

I like giving you different ways of learning about the remedies and this week I’m taking a question from my Bach Flower Facebook Group and a story of my own experience.

Helping others

 

Living with, or watching our loved ones suffer when we know there’s something simple and natural that can help them, but not feeling confident enough to do so, is difficult.

These ‘symptoms’ are from a family member who says, “I can’t tell how he feels, but it seems ‘lost’ and I know that trying to remember things makes him fearful and very anxious.  Also, he’s afraid of being left alone”.    (For ease of writing I’m referring to ‘he’).

Remember to always seek medical attention when you’re ill.  Note that Bach Remedies can be taken along with medical drugs, but do not replace them).

Helping with recommended remedies


With no other information than what I’ve been given above, the man’s mind is being to fade.  So much so, that he now doesn’t have ‘he ‘point of reference’ that our memories gives us.  He has no anchor and so he feels lost.

And because he has no memories, he gets anxious when he tries to remember things.  And very naturally, he feels lost and is terrified of being left alone.

Although it might seem too simple, I would recommend that this man be given Rescue Remedy.  Rescue Remedy does just that – it rescues.  This person really does need ‘rescuing’ from their situation that’s had a major impact on his life.

Why Rescue Remedy?

Rescue Remedy is a combination of the 5 remedies and I’ve given below why I think they’ll help this man feel better.

Star of Bethlehem re-orientates our energy field after shock and trauma.  It ‘sticks us back together’ as it were.  This remedy also heals sadness and sorrow.

Rock Rose is the remedy for ‘urgent fear’ or panic.  My writer describes ‘anxiety’ when he’s trying to remember something.  I don’t think he is ‘anxious’ – I think he’s terrified because he can’t remember.   Rock Rose will help with those feelings.

Clematis is the ‘grounding’ remedy.  This will help him come out his ‘mind’ (which he’s having difficulty ‘finding’) and help ground him into today.

Cherry Plum is for compulsive, obsessive thoughts.  When you’re trying to remember something that is just beyond your mind, as you try to reach it, your thoughts will become obsessive.

Impatiens will help if the man gets frustrated and has sudden outburst as he find its difficult to live with his situation.

Rescue Remedy is not a panacea for all ills.  Click here to find out more about Rescue Remedy.

More in John’s story below.

True story of dementia

One evening, after I’d finished my Bach Flower talk, John approached me and asked if there was a way of helping his wife Mary.  Mary was in her late 70s was suffering from dementia.

John told me that Mary wasn’t really ‘here’. She could remember things from the past, but not what happened today, hence she had little interest in anything going on around her and had little conversation.  When Mary did talk, she said the same things over and over.

I made up a treatment bottle for Mary with …
Rescue Remedy to help pull her back together
Honeysuckle because she was living in the past. This remedy will bring you back into the present.
White Chestnut to stop the repeated thoughts running through her head
Larch to give Mary some confidence
Mimulus to help her deal with her anxieties about life.
Walnut to help her let go of one situation and move onto the next.

Click here to find out the most effective way to take the Bach Flower Remedies.

A treatment bottle should last about 3 and ½ to 4 weeks.  Four weeks after giving John the bottle, I received a message asking for another bottle.

John was delighted with the result of the remedies.  Mary was less stressed and anxious.   She was able to remember some things and was able to have short conversations.  And she seemed much happier in herself.  I sent another bottle of the same combination.

About three weeks later, I received a message from John that Mary had passed on, peacefully in her sleep.  He was very relieved that the last weeks of Mary’s life had seemed easier and that she’d gone peacefully.

I hope the blogs are helpful and encourage your enthusiasm for learning about the remedies.  They’re not however, intended to replace the need for good course.   Learning about the remedies and how to use them, gives you a life-long tool to help you and your loved ones navigate the trials of life.

I now have a Practitioner Diploma Course. Click here if you’re interested in helping others lead the best life then can.

Over to you

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment box below.  Thank you.

 

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  • Christi says:

    This was lovely. At least the last few weeks of her life were happier ones. Thank you for doing what you do.

    • Rose Todd says:

      Dear Christi. Thank you for taking the time to write.
      And bless you for your kind words too. I do apprecite it. Thank you again.
      Warm wishes Rose

  • Pat says:

    Rose this is an amazing explanation for such a problem and I am now beginning to understand how you analyse such conditions. Also a useful guide for self help if you feel these emotions coming on. Not just a fast fix but an easing for handling your heart and mind. Thank you for this.

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Pat. Thank you for your kind words about the blog and glad it has helped you understand how to simply look at our situation. I think you’ve beautifully summed up what the remedies do – “an easing for heart and mind”. Thank you again. Warm wishes. Rose,

  • Jennifer Bradley says:

    Dear Rose – I have been using flower essences along with giving 3-4/week Jin Shin Jyutsu with a 61 year woman diagnosed with dementia for the past 2+ years. Flower essences lifted the dark cloud she described around her and calmed her anxieties. When the bottle runs low, it is the one thing she asks for. I change the flower combinations as needed depending on how she describes her feelings. Her family reported seeing positive change within days of the addition of flower essences. What a gift.

    I’m preparing essences now for another dementia patient I work with with hope for similar relief and symptoms improvement.

    • Rose Todd says:

      Dear Jennifer. What a wonderful story. Thank you very much for sharing it with me,
      And thank you too for sharing the fact that Bach Flower Remedies really can help people with dementia.
      I’m delighted your cilent feels the difference the remedies make for her and that her family notice the difference too.
      Bach Flower Remedies is a beautifully simple and extremely effective system of healing. Thank you once again for writing to tell us how much they have helped your client.
      Warm wishes

  • Danielle Brard says:

    Interesting… too few books speak about flowers and dementia and/ or Alzheimer … I m very much looking for that type of books… thank you for your help .. if by any chance you know about some others books please be kind to let me know
    Dbrard /france

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Danielle. Thank you so much for your comment.
      As Bach Flowers heals and soothes negative or unwanted emotions and not circumstances and situaitons, and as everyone of us has our own unique response to situations, I don’t think there’ll be many books about this or other diseases.
      However, if you obnserve and are aware of the behaviour of the patient, then you’ll be able to deduce some of their feelings, and therefore be able to choose the best remedies..
      The blog dealt with the ‘obvious’ and common emotions/symptoms. You might find that these remedies are enough to help the patient (or your loved one).
      The more you use the remedies, and the more you get to know them, the more easily you’ll be able to choose the remedies that will give the most relief.
      I’m sorry that this is not what you were looking for, but it is the best I can do.
      If you have any other questions, please get in touch, and I’ll help where I can.
      Take care.
      Much love Rose. [email protected]

  • Dove99 says:

    Dear Rose.
    I am a many decade’s long user of the Bach Rescue Remedy as well as in more recent years the RESCUE Sleep. There was a time when I did see a practitioner who prepared a personalized treatment bottles for me but I now rely on the two mentioned as they are the most readily available to me. I am a huge believer.

    This said, I am now facing the challenge and sorrow of caring for my husband who is suffering dementia. The evening hours (sundowning) are often the most difficult.

    I have experimented successfully with giving him the RESCUE SLEEP in the late afternoon as well as at bedtime and occasionally if he wakes during the night. Neither of us suffer insomnia, but we both do sometimes wake during the night and find it hard to fall back to sleep. The Rescue Sleep always works. I will sometimes take it myself, if I feel I am obsessing on some aspect of his condition.

    I might consider order working with you to obtain a more personally prepared treatment for him. Thank you for you fine work.

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Dove 99.
      Thank you for writing to me. I’m sorry I didn’t reply sooner.
      I”m always delighted to meet a fellow Bach enthusiast. I too am a ‘huge believer’.
      You seem to be doing very well with Rescue and Rescue Night.

      I would be very happy to work with husband and (if you’re in the UK) I would send you treatment bottles.
      Here’s the link about my consultations, if you’d like to have a look.

      https://rosetodd.com/bach-flower-remedy-consultations/
      If you’d like to get in touch, please email me on [email protected]
      I look forward to hearing from you.
      Warm wishes Rose.

      • Dove 99 says:

        Thank you, Rose
        I am NOT in the UK. I live in Brooklyn, NY. BTW did you ever know Mrs. Starnaman (now deceased): she was a Bach practitioner living here in NYC, had been a student of Dr. Bach and was the person I worked with many decades ago.

        • Rose Todd says:

          Hello Delores. Thank you for your reply.
          Even though you’re not in the UK, I can still do your consultations on Skype. If you have the remedies/or some remedies yourself, then you can make up the treatment bottles as per my suggestions. So, that’s not a problem.
          No. I’m afraid I didn;t know Mrs, Starnaman. Golly what a gift it must have been to talk to her. I didn’t know any of the orignal people’ of the Bach Centre. I only came to live in England (for the first time) in 1987 and by the time I’d got mysefl sort-of settled and discovered the Bach Centre it was 1990. Nora Weeks, Bach’s loyal assistant died about 1956 (I think.) I didn’t even meet Nickie Murray, (who I understand was taught by Nora Weeks). She was so knowledgable too!
          There’s a whole new ‘brand’ of us now, doing our best to spread the Bach Flower word!
          I hope you and your husband are well. I’m here to help when you’re ready.
          Warm wishes.
          Rose

  • Phyllis says:

    I was reading about Bach flowers in a Natural Dog Book and happened upon your information because I was curious if there was a use for Bach flowers for people with dementia. My 92 year old mother is now in a nursing home and has extreme anxiety.

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Phyllis.
      Thank you for leaving a comment. I’m sorry I didn’t get back to you yesterday.
      Bach Flower Remedies deal with negative emotions, so, yes, the remedies will be able to help your dear mum.
      I’ve written on blog about how Bach Flowers can help with Dementia and there’s a short story there or how I mixed together the remedies that would help – and how they did help. The remedies are perfectly safe for her to take along side her other medication.

      Here is the link to the blog. I’m sure you’ll find it helpful.

      And here is the link that will tell you how to mix the remedies together, and how to give them to her.
      https://rosetodd.com/bach-flower-remedies/taking-bach-flower-remedies/

      And here is a link to a blog that will tell you exactly how to mix together there remedies that will help her.
      https://rosetodd.com/bach-flower-remedies/bach-flowers-helping-others-dementia/

      And don’t forget to let me know how your repsonds to the remedies. Thank you.
      Take care.
      Warm wishes to you and your mum.

  • Shirla says:

    Hi Rose, Thank you for addressing this growing issue in our world and the many ways Bach Essences can help. I know you ask questions about what people want to hear in your blog and this is one of them. Could you address how a variety of flower essences could be used knowing how a person is feeling when there is failing memory, dementia and Alzheimers. As with all our flowers, we treat the person not the disease.

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Shirla. Thank you for writing. I do like to receive questions about the Bach Flower Remedies.
      I’m not quire sure what you mean by “address how a variety of flower esswences could be used”…
      Do you mean, how the Bach Remedies I’ve listed in the blog can be used to help those with Dementia?
      Or do you mean how a variety of different brands/systems of Flower Essences could be used?
      The Bach Flower remedies I’ve mentioned in my blog are to help the anxiety, fears and the ‘lost’ feeling those with failing memory, dementia and Alzheimers have.
      I can’t help you with other brands or types of Flower Essences, I’m afraid as I only work with Bach Remedies.
      Bach Flower Remedies (Essences) is a complet system of emotional healing, so I have no need to use other Flower Essences. But lots of people do. It’s a matter of what suits you.
      I hope I’ve answered your question, if not, please write again. Warm wishes. Rose

      • Shirla says:

        Thank you Rose for taking the time to answer my inquiry. I apologize for not being clear! I exclusively work with Bach Flowers too. I’m very interested in supporting our elders who age with memory loss, depersonalization, withdrawal, depression etc. I was just initiating a conversation about what feelings could arise and how the flowers could be helpful.
        I liked what you wrote about memory loss; I just wanted to keep the conversation going! Thank you for all you do in the world 🌺

        • Rose Todd says:

          Hello Shirla. Thank you for writing again. Well done doing so much good with the Bsch Flowers. They are amazing, and I don’t know why they’re not more widely used! So, I’m doing what I can tp spread the word!
          We both know that we treat the patient and not the disease. However, even looking at the symptoms, (ie memory loss) is not going to help those suffering.
          The key lies in treating each individual response. For example, the two extremes of memory loss could be one of anger and irritablity, or withdrawal. If they’re depressed or feeling lost, do they cry a lot, or go wandering off. It’s the suffers unique and indivual respons that needs to be treated to give them a better quality of life.
          Bach Flowers is a wonderful conversation, and its a great idea to keep it going.
          If you’re a Facebook-er perhaps you might like to join the conversations that are going on in either of my 2 Groups. Search for Bach Flowers with Rose Todd and you find me.
          I have a second group, niostly for my students. This is more advanced than the first group. This is a membership group. If you’re interested in this group, please email me on [email protected] and I’ll send you a link with more information.
          Thank you once again for the conversation. I do enjoy talking about Bach Flowers.
          Take care. Warm Wishes. Rose

  • Kathryn Wilkinson says:

    Hello Rose
    Thank you for posting about Dementia and how it can help people, we have a family member who may benefit so very apt. Keep warm. Best wishes Kathy

    • Rose Todd says:

      Helly Kathy. Good to hear from you. Thanks for writing.
      It’s a pleasure. It’s a very hard disease to deal with, so I’m glad you think the remedies could be helpful.
      I think keeping worm is essential! The cold seems to have hit us hard.
      Warm wishes Rose

  • Dr. Preeti Balwami says:

    Tanks dear Rose for sharing your experience!

  • Maria says:

    Dear Rose,

    Thank you so much for all your efforts. I love reading your posts.

    I was wondering if you can recommend back flower remedies for Frontotemporal Dementia/Pick’s Disease at all? Very sadly my mother is morphing into a completely different person.

    She has trouble communicating, cannot express herself, not only is losing her memory but is also becoming verbally aggressive, doesn’t want to socialise. Normal hygiene rituals are out of the window and she is willing to talk less and less these days.

    The medications prescribed by the doctors are ridiculous and we have had to cut them as they put her to sleep for days. We are at our wits end.

    Please advise.

    Best wishes

    Maria

    • Rose Todd says:

      Hello Maria. Thank you for leaving a comment. Bach Flowers deals with emotions and not the symptoms or the disease. So, you look at how the symptoms are making your mother feel. You say, she’s aggresive and angry, so she needs a remedy for that. There is a remedy for not wanting to be socable. She could also do with Rescue Remedy. That would help her, with the additions of the other remedies too.
      It’s too difficult to unravel a case like this via a Comment so it would be better to have a consultation. Here is the link to the Consutlation page on my site. Have a look, and if you have any questions, please let me know.
      https://rosetodd.com/bach-flower-remedy-consultations/
      I hope the Rescue Remedy helps your mother. Rose.

      • Maria says:

        Dear Rose,

        Thank you for your kind response. Would love a full consultation. Will book when we return home in a few weeks hopefully via skype.

        Have a blessed evening.

        Maria

        • Rose Todd says:

          Hi Maria. It’s a pleasure.
          Rose.

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